I have a girlfriend. We have been seeing each other for more than 7 years. It is a long time. And I realized that we hadn't done anything Christmassy or loverlike at Christmas for years. So I thought about some plans, and talked to her about them. Her face was bright with delight. There is anticipated a busy December.
She used to say that lovers ought not to be fully familiar with each other, not to feel fully or constantly safe with each other. There should be a certain "strains" between them so that men remain men and women, women.
The plans must have restored the strains between us.