2017/03/08 Out of sight, out of mind.

There have been many friends who said they would not forget me or that they wouldn't fail to keep in touch. Despite this remarks, most of them have kept out of touch since and disappeared. When I was in junior high school I learned the proverb "Out of sight, out of mind." At that time, it didn't make sense to me. But now it seems that it is well said.

At the thought of this fact, I marveled for a moment at how fleeting I can be. I am easy to forget, and it is easy for me to forget friends. But later on, I came to believe that this is how it should be. Once you have set sail for a new life with a new determination, most if not all of your circle of friends will have to undergo a change. 

The decision to be a philosopher made some friendships awkward for me. Some of my friends began to look on me as a man who can talk philosophically and interestingly about everything. At first, as I am an obedient man and can feel by instinct this kind of implicit expectation of them, I tried to live up to them. But these efforts got me nowhere. They felt farther away from me. And they said they wanted to hear more of the philosophical talk I delivered that night. That was when I realized that I am no longer their friends I used to be. I will see no more of them, and I will think no more of them. Interestingly enough, I could feel they felt as I did. That's the way relationships go.